It is Good now He has Gone

Wednesday -- Bright beautiful sunny morning 34 C now, will be 39 later. 
Another hot day. I will water my garden for sure, in the evening. Last night 
my sleep was not good so I started my day, a bit late.

What you expect, at our age such things start happening, not a big deal.
Every stage of our cycle of life has it's own beauty with all of it's plus and 
minuses. Nothing is total plus, there is always something attached, that 
we have to accept. Just take it and try to face with grace.

Old age is like any other stage of cycle of life. Don't take it like some 
scary period of your life. It has it's own beauty. Glass is not half empty, 
it is half full, my Friends. 

There is always something positive, we have to look for that, to make 
our day. It is the way, we look at things. Just change your attitude and
things will look fine, nothing will go wrong. 

Life is the same for everyone. It is like an unpaved path, we have to walk 
through, to find our way. Try to pick flowers of happiness, all along the 
trail of your life. Life is not to be gloomy, to get upset for petty matters. 

Life is a gift from God. Don't waste and bin your beautiful moments.
Try to give color to your life.There is so much beauty all around. 
Just open your eyes, to look for that.You will be fine and be able to 
make your day.

Today is one of my daughter's birthday, of the middle one, who lives 
in Grimsby. Last year I was at her place, enjoyed the beautiful moments, 
together.Time flies, life changes. 

We have a common website, family group, to write our messages, to share
with everyone. It helps, to connect, especially when everyone is at different 
places, and even some are in different time zones. 

It is good to share our moments with our loved ones. We feel good that 
they are here for us to share the great moments of our lives. Sharing makes 
our moments special. It matters a lot specially in our difficult times.

It helps, when we talk about things with the people, we trust. Still we have 
to filter things out. I mean, not to use the common platform to discuss 
everything. We have to figure out, what to talk and where to talk.

Every personality is different, unique. You trust their sincerity and love 
still, we are not comfortable to talk about, to open up with everyone, we 
love. Like friend circle, we feel close to some not to everyone, same is with 
family members.

Common platforms are for brief messages, for short talks, to connect, to 
spread happiness, to chit chat.Talk about things, to discuss, always in 
private, one to one. 

Group meetings, I think, slow to solve the situations. Most of the times, 
complicate the existing situation, because of unintentional personality clash.

Not their fault as every Human is unique with his own personalty, with 
his own views and opinion. On the table, everyone tries to put his honest 
opinion, which doesn't get along with the other person, in the group.

That results in confusion, takes long to sort things out, to decide what will 
be the middle way, to give everyone, a piece of satisfaction, to make him 
feel good that something from his point of view, is there, incorporated 
in the resolution.

It is not the solution, it is some sort of arrangement, to make everyone, 
to stay, to stick with the group. The problem to be solved stays there for 
long, to be solved, takes days, months, sometimes years. 

But suits to all in the group, no one wants to leave the spot in the group.
We Humans by nature, are attention seekers.There is a kid hiding, deep
down in our inside, who needs to be acknowledged, to be heard, to be
appreciated, most of the times.

That is personality clash. Everyone wants to lead, to come first, with good 
marks, to show his report card and to talk about, in his family and friend's
circle, to feel special, to be respected. 

We know that nobody is happy. Everyone wanted to be the first, they all 
are jealous, covering up their inside feeling, with their false meaningless 
beautiful smile. 

We are the same, jealous inside for them. We all are covering up our inside 
feeling. I succeed most of the times, they all think, I love them, I am their 
friend. It is OK, tit for tat. I am doing fine, handling things around. 
Life is good for me. 

Try to win people's hearts, not their superficial smile, which they give out 
of no choice, just to survive under your umbrella, because of your position 
in the office.

Try to win people's trust, to share their matters, their feelings, with you.
They don't have to feel scared of you.Try to be the person, people not 
to talk differently on your back. 

When we leave, at least some can remember in their thoughts. People 
not have to say, it is good, now he has gone. They rather have to say, it is 
not good, he has gone, we will miss him.