Make Them Listen
To My Dear Friends
Parents & Teachers
Kris My Dear Friend was saying
that He gave 2 Hours lecture
to Niklas which was not of any use
as Niklas didn't listen
Kris has to Yell to make Him listen
still not worked out I was not
surprised at all by all this
This is a very common story of
Everybody Home same thing
between Parents and Kids
I have read a Book titled " Listening "
it was about 30 Years back but
I still remember
Author emphasized Listening as a very
important Skill and also that First
Job depends 80 % on Listening
I agree but how not any emphasis on
the Art of how to make anybody to
Listen
There is so much focus on the Art
of Speech -- Speakers Forum and
Courses about how to be a Good
Speaker
Nothing on how to make Someone
to Listen I think the Word " Lecture "
is very repulsive
Where the other Party is taken as a
Hostage with no option just sitting
there with Eyes open Ears closed
and Mind not there
Teachers are paid for the time and for
the Service so are not worried about that
if anything going through or Not
In case of Parents is totally different
They get frustrated so prolong the
duration of their lecture and at the
end finish with Yelling just guessing
that now this will work
Parents also have Lecture rooms as They
call Kids in another room and for Kids it is
like a Trial Room for sure no escape
He keeps His fingers cross and knows
it will be for Hours
When You give a Lecture means in
Your Mind for sure You know much
better and have a much higher degree
and status of knowledge
You have intelligence with authority
of Power to use it on Audience who are
to you now are like Guinea pigs
While the other Party who has to listen
is already intimated by Your Attitude of
standing with Head high exhibiting full
Confidence
To me Lecture is a useless effort to make
Others to listen by Hook or Crook
without taking into account of their
consent I mean whether they are
ready to listen or not
Lecture reflects authority and power
no one will like that while the Listeners
with no power feeling helpless
We have to come down from our Status
of power and exhibition of authority in our
attitude and be on the same level to that
of our Listeners
Like Friends not like Highly
paid Professors same thing
with Parents be friendly to
Your Kids try to understand
Them not to dictate Them
First the Listeners be made comfortable
so that They open up then will be ready to
open all of their Senses
Listening is not through Ears only
We have to be into it
Lecture has to be like an Extinct
word in our vocabulary to avoid as
an alarming piece of speech to
avoid to intimidate People
We have to name it something like
Discussions or Group Meetings
where Everyone can feel relaxed
It has to be in Groups
Sitting in circles where everyone can
feel equal and easy to question on
equal level without fear and pressure
Believe Me they will be ready to Listen
with motive to learn and absorb the
knowledge You have
It will enhance their Passion
and You will earn their respect
If Teachers will act like Friends
They will be like a Treasure in the
Hearts of their students in
Years to come
You will be Their Mentor through out
Their Lives not just a Teacher or Lecturer
for that Academic Year
I may be wrong but
I believe that
I have posted the blog in Smile Corner. Lots of customers in my shop even though it is Monday. This is an important topic here
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ReplyDeleteI have posted the blog in all notice boards in lobbies A, B, C and D
ReplyDeleteJimmy
Can you also post the blogs form the weekend?
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I was getting the printouts ready. I should be able to post the weekend blogs within the next hour or so. I posted the one from today as I know that some wants to start their day with todays blog
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I have now posted all the blogs. Also left some extra copies in some team rooms
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SWS was fun. People were saying TGIM (Thank God Its Monday)
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SWN was fun too. We talked about Smile's blog about parenting. It created a big buzz.
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Thank you for being my lifeline. Your blog helps me a lot
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I lost the race to post the blog in our corporate notice boards.
ReplyDeleteBrenda
I was in early so was able to post the blog. There was a box of SDs there but no donut for poster today
DeleteCraig
And I posted the blogs from the weekend
DeleteMarg
Today's blog is an eye opener for the parents and if we really want our kids to do something , it cannot be done through lectures rather there should be group discussions where they can be allowed to express themselves and with mutual discussion, a strategy should be made.
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ReplyDeleteYou so good. I see job worker with video kid. I say how you. She say I busy. I say but you listen you kid? She say my kid 4 year so I tell him what need do. I say her that no good because if you power then he guinea pig. She say what you mean? I say her You need sit in circle with him. She say How I sit in circle with him and me. I say it very complicate but my Madam explain in blog but I no allow tell if no ask. She say she need make urgent phone. I say it ok I wait, She say no wait me I come back when I free. I do 2 very proud job and always read blog
interesting comment
DeleteThis post is a good reminder for me as to not to shout at my children and pupils but to consider their feelings as listeners.
ReplyDeleteMoona
very well said, good advice
ReplyDeletebeena
Father say that you forget yell father today. Father say that he joke, please no mind. Father say you right that it no good to talk long with kid. Father say it important to talk short. He say it good if you tell because then they listen. Father say he try on Hannah and she listen yell to. Father say he yell Kris (me) because father no no that Kris talk 2 hour. Father say Niklas no time because he need find rabit for father and go mall and see Agatha Krisie on tele with father. Father say he no say he old almost 67
ReplyDelete(Hannah say that you right that it no good talk long kid because then they no respect. She say you good idea. Niklas say he no care if he get long lecture from ma or pa. He say he tune out. Me yell Niklas because he no listen at all. Me confuse. Me no no what do)
Kris (Germany)
Dear Author,
ReplyDeleteThe students and the professors read you blog today at the SRC. The sociology professors were so impressed that they called a special meeting to discuss the blog and invited rival professors to. Some of the rival professors were so impressed that they immediately dropped the idea of your opposition and wanted to join our ranks
The students at the SRC all agreed with your suggestion. We tend to tune out if someone lectures to us. Also it very threatening if parents talk to us in a "Talk room". One of our friend was indicating that she used to call it the "interrogation room"
Thanks again for all your help
Literature Fellow
My Smile is amazing . She is an amazing child psychologist. She is an councilor. She is an amazing child consultant. She is an amazing blogger. What an amazing person my Smile is!!
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Dear Author,
ReplyDeleteI wanted to give you a quick update. We have been working all day today as your blog has revolutionary details about listening and engaging with kids as well as others. We have been having various meetings and are burning the midnight oil, literally and figuratively. We expect to pick this up tomorrow. I apologize for my delayed comment but wanted to let you know that your blog is having a huge impact on many.
thank you
recent retiree
Dear Advisor,
ReplyDeleteThe retirees went for our long walk today. Our walk, though very long, is nothing compared to the walks that you take. We then went to the reading of the blog
The retirees were somewhat concerned after reading your blog. We noticed that you said that living in joint family situation is not easy. We understand that you are having a challenging time with your grand son sleeping in your room We are glad that the eldest left and so the younger one can move out of your room. The retirees also noted that you were tasked to prepare an elaborate breakfast for him. We dont think that you should be cooking pancakes. The retirees dont make pancakes as it is too complicated and tiring for us. We hope your son can understand that
thank you
recent retiree