Challenges to face

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The  real challenge for the whole immigrant community is that how to raise their future generation.

Kids should be a model of their own culture and traditions, or parents can compromise and give some liberties to their kids.

Parents agree on one point, that they should be more flexible, specially girls should not be in that tight compartment as used to be back home, they should be out of their cages.

Parents are still very confused. They don't mind their kids going on the streets for Tick or Treat in Halloween, but when kids want to go to Christmas parties to their friend place, it becomes a burning hot problem.

They don't want their kids mingling with  the children of other cultures, specially in parties.

As long as their kids religion and belief is safe, it seems OK with every parent.
They don't want to take chances, still losing the grip on their future generation.

Migration always opens up new vista to new cultures. Parents have to accept.
Ring out the old and ring in the new, face the reality.

Dear parents you are not in driving seat now. You have to accept whatever is there. No choice. Take it or leave it. Now get ready to accept for inter cultural marriages of your children  in years to come.

After all it was your decision to migrate to this Dreamland, not your children's
so just relax and take it easy to face the challenges.

Comments

  1. Sheema1/28/16, 12:58 PM

    Good advice

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  2. Anonymous1/28/16, 3:34 PM

    I would like to mention a very useful saying of Hazrat Imam Ali(as), “Do not force your children to behave like you, for surely they have been created for a time which is different to your time”.
    Parents must not ask their children to be like someone they haven't seen, yes they all want to keep their values and traditions alive but this can be done in a balanced way. If parents discuss with their children, their conditions with understanding, the situation can be solved but as it can be a challenge for some, it can also be a challenge for the children. Therefore respect must be given to the children in order to reveal the affection the parents truly hold for them. Children nowadays don’t respond to deep discussions. Their main focus is setting a good example for their parents. Therefore parents show them how to be patient and polite by displaying that quality in their manner. Parents should be a friend to their children, solve their problems and remember to establish trust among one another.

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