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I enjoyed the Ferry ride

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   It's a hot humid morning, predicting 37 C later on. It is 11.30, started drizzling. I am in my backyard.  The flowers, red, purple, gold and white are giving my back garden a beautiful look. Scenic and eye-catching view. My son used to be busy with his wife in the evenings working in the garden. People know that they have just a couple of weeks to enjoy the outdoors. We don't have much time to do things in our garden in Canada. We have all four seasons in Canada, but our winter is a bit longer here. We try to enjoy making adjustments. Spring time will be gone and there will be Fall after. We wait for that too to enjoy the colors. The trees look great with all shades of green, yellow. bright red, orange and copper. It used to be an amazing atmosphere. We are enjoying our spring time for now. I am going for my walk to the Coffee House. The front gardens on the way looked beautiful. The plants around are loaded with all green. Yesterday was a big day for me. My childhood ...

Enjoying my morning

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  It's a beautiful morning. Some mornings come with surprises. Like  Christmas. You never know which part of your body is going to give you a hard time. Not going to listen to you to cooperate. To get along with your plans for the day ahead. The same is with some of the nights. Our body is not like a robot. We go through hard times with our nights too sometimes. The nights we are not sleeping well. We will not be able to get up with the same energy to focus on to enjoy our mornings. Mornings are the face of our day. Spoiling our morning means that we are done with our day. Nights are the key to control our days. We have to take measures to manage our sleep time. At the later stages of our life they start giving us problems. So many issues start coming up as our body starts getting weaker. It becomes hard to handle things. We have to manage anyway to streamline our life. To keep our pressure down helps a lot to manage things in life. To manage our mental pressure, we have to di...

Rabbit in my garden

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It's a beautiful day, breezy morning. Perfect weather to go for a walk. The trees are loaded with green.  The gardens are back to life with beautiful flowers of all colors. The grass is lush green with no brown patches in between. The blood red David Austin is still on break. I can't see any flowers. The same is with the pink Canadian roses. Everyone is different. The same is with plants. They behave and react to the atmosphere taking their own time. The small brown rabbit is sitting quietly at the right by the flower bed. A couple of brown birds with yellow patches on their belly are enjoying their morning walk under the Maple tree. The white Butterfly is whispering to the purple flowers. My son planted a white planter on the weekend with his wife. This is all so peaceful and scenic to behold. To cherish and enjoy a sort of meditation. I am outside in my back garden, sitting on one of the red knitted steel garden chairs. My son got four of these from the Canadian Tire store y...

My flower bed is back to life

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  I am sitting inside the Second Cup Cafe. It's a bit of a festive atmosphere. Not happens here all the time.  It is not like Tim Hortons where you see people coming and going all the time. The Second Cup is a bit quiet with a different sort of clientele. I used to come here anytime after 11.30.  I keep my mornings for my chores. Some kitchen work, making some calls and to plan out my day plans. The weather has now changed. It is 20 C, breezy. The flower bed in my back garden is back to life. Pink, gold, white and blood red flowers adding up the beauty of the scenic atmosphere. It is the time of the year when you feel cold under shades. Feel hot under the sun. We have to pick and choose what to wear while getting out. Our coats and jackets are back in the closet for sometime. We know that things will start getting changed after mid August. We are feeling relaxed enjoying our time for now. We will handle it when the time comes. We don't have to spoil our days by thinking a...

Red flowers giving smile

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    It's a beautiful morning. Bright and sunny. My neighborhood looks a bit quiet. The same is at my place.  I think people like to start their mornings late on weekends. No work, no school to be there on time. Weekends people take to get relaxed. To calm down and enjoy for a while their time at home. People like to be with their family for some time. Things start getting changed as the family grows. Kids grow up finding their own activities to get busy with friends. They are still there at home for some time. Parents don't want to miss that opportunity. To have a feel of family time, parents make a point to stay home until kids leave for their plans. I think at every stage of life things start changing. We have to adjust ourselves accordingly. Kids grow up and leave to start families of their own. Our house is no longer the same. It looks like an empty nest. No more hissing buzzing. It is so quiet. We have to make plans to enjoy our days. We are no longer busy with work ...

Enjoying Coffee and cake

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  It's a perfect day today. Just have to wear a light jacket. Not too hot. Not too cold. It is 13 C, 10 in the morning.  I did not sleep well last night. Woke up at 3.30 am. I was trying to go back to sleep. Nothing was working out. I think we start feeling too much pressure at the time everyone is sleeping and we wide awake at nearly middle of the night. The first thing we have to calm down.Things will not be under our control until we are not relaxed. It works all the time. No use of tossing down in your bed. I used to switch my computer on to distract myself at that time. Get busy with Scrabble, cards and word search. It takes some time. Works out after a while. I am off today, so I don't have to go to my library for my part time job. I was not in a hurry to be out of my bed in the morning. I count playing Darts as my part time job. Nothing wrong with tricking yourself to feel good. We have a structured lifestyle throughout our life. Our days are filled with the time tables...

Birds are back from South

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  It is a hot morning, 24 C feeling like 28. I don't have to go to my library to play Darts today.  I am off on Tuesdays. I have to do my laundry with just a small load. I have to make some quick calls and I will be set to leave for my walk. Summer is already here.  We waited so long for these days. No jackets, no winter coats, gloves, stoles, nothing. We are free to move around with our light clothes. Summer in Canada is not for long. We know that by mid August things will start changing. May is nearly done. We get excited to enjoy it fully. We are not house bound in our winter days too. We try to get out. Go for walks. Walks in summer are not the same. We are not loaded with so many layers of clothing. Our winter is scenic with snow around. It is so peaceful, calm and quiet. A totally different scenario in winter time. To enjoy all that we have to push ourselves in 20 to 25 C below zero. To get dressed in layers. Loaded with heavy winter coats and other accessories to t...

I love my hooded coat

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  It's a cloudy, hazy morning. It was raining all day yesterday. It also started drizzling now.  I am at the lakeside with my hooded long coat. My sleeveless fawn color sweater is underneath my coat. I have my red umbrella with me just in case. We have to be ready to handle things. Not to ruin the feel of the enjoyment around. Keep things you might be needing to be on the safeside. It is better to be extra careful rather than get stuck. Anyway I didn't have to open up my umbrella. Thanks to my hooded coat. That worked out to handle the drizzling. I was a bit careful with my glasses. Foggy glasses make my walk a bit tricky. Anyway we have to tackle things with whatever is around to make our day. It is 12.15, I am at Second Cup coffee house enjoying my coffee. Time alone is a sort of blessing. We need time to talk with ourselves. No distraction. We don't need any company at that time. This is the time for our own selves. We have to talk and listen to ourselves. Not to anyone ...

What a scenery around

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  Some days are beyond our control. We can not go with our chalked out plans.  We have no options, just take our plan “ B “ out to make our day. Never let your days be ruined under any circumstances. Things keep on changing.The weather is not in our control. The same is with our health. Sometimes things come up and we are not able to manage our plans. We can switch. What to do has to be enjoyable, not like homework. What we don't enjoy won't help in making our day. The first thing is to be relaxed.That is the key before taking any start. We don't have to take life as any project. Not has to be taken like an assignment.Take it easy one day at a time. Try to fill up pages of the story book of your life. Not with misery. We have to compile our story book with beautiful moments. Life is the same. Just be relaxed. Patience is a virtue. It helps to change the entire perspective of life. Life is like a roller coaster. Things go on changing throughout our journey of life. We have t...

Red and Gold Tulips giving smile

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  The day before it was hot 28 C feeling like 34. Today it is totally a different scenario.  It is a bit cooler with 10 C. The weather is like a roller coaster. It is so confusing one day up the other day down. We keep our fingers crossed to decide what to take out to wear from our coat closet. We have to step out of the door to make sure how it will feel to go for a walk. We have all sorts of coats and jackets lined inside the closet. We are all set to tackle our Canadian winter throughout the year long. I usually go for my walk around after 11.30. It takes about 25 minutes to be there at the Second Cup coffee house. I was with my light jacket. I was back just after a couple of minutes of my walk to change my jacket with a heavier one. We have to be very particular with what to wear before heading out for any journey. It is a long journey, a short trip or just a walk. Doesn't matter, it has to be enjoyable. Our dress up has to be comfortable. It is a must. Not only for our ou...

Hot day humid morning

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  It's a hot humid morning. The weather channel predicted 28 C feeling like 35.  Rain or shine I go for my walk on the days I don't have to go to my library. I think we have to accept whatever is there and never have to stop ourselves from doing things to make our days. The days are not the same. The weather keeps on changing. We can not control the things around us. We just don't have to lose control of ourselves. Our mind and body is sort of our own jurisdiction. We have to keep total control on that. Keep in mind that our body also keeps on changing. What we are today. Things won't be the same with our body in later days. Our mind goes with our body. It won't be the same either. With time we start getting older day by day. With age our body starts losing its strength. Our nerves are also not so strong as in the earlier days of our life. It all affects our mental well-being too. We start hesitating to go for any bold steps with demanding physical activities. Our d...

It is raining and windy

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  Some days surprise you. It is the same for me today. First thing in the morning I used to switch on my computer to check the weather.  I believe that the weather plays an integral part in planning our day. The days I don't go to play Darts to show up for my part time job in the library, I go for my walk to make my day. It was not a good sleep for me last night, but I managed to wake up early. We have to keep pushing ourselves to do things. We have to get busy with some physical activity as long as we can manage keeping track of our health and safety.   Sitting idle, staying home to feel cozy and relaxed is good. Not all the time to hook up with screens. We will be a couch potato, lethargic. We don't use the things, it gets rustic. Same is with our body parts. We have to make use of all of our body parts to keep it workable. What we don't use we lose. We have to value our mind and body. Feel fortunate and keep track of its well being throughout your life. Anyway, I check...

Flowers giving me smile

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  It's a cloudy, hazy morning. The sun is not fully awake to brighten our day. I am also a bit late to start my day.  I missed my friend the Black Squirrel. He comes early in the morning for his exercises. A couple of light brown birds with yellow beaks are walking in my back garden. The grass is green.  The red, violet, and gold flowers my son and his wife planted a couple of days ago are giving color to my garden. I can't see the brown rabbit، maybe he is still in bed, starting his day late like me. Some days are not so good or maybe we are not in a good shape to handle things. I believe life is the same for everyone. It is the same at all the stages of our life. It is like a combo with mixed moments. Some sweet, some sour and some are bitter. We have energy to handle, to deal with the things at the earlier stages of our life. Our body is not so strong, our nerves also not the same at the later stages of life. We don't feel strong enough to deal with the same as we get ...

April showers May flowers

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  Things have changed. Days are longer, brighter with sunshine. Winter time is gone till next year. No more rains.  April showers May flowers. This is the month of flowers. Flowers of all colors. I see life in my flower bed at the back of my garden. It is no more deserted. The birds, my friend the Black Squirrel and the small brown rabbit all came back to enjoy their time in my garden. I have company in my backyard. My son and his wife are busy organizing things in the garden. They got beautiful blood red, lilac, white and bright yellow seasonal flowers from the nursery. They are planting the flowers in the two white and one brown brick color planters. We will put these planters by the side of the deck in our backyard. We know that spring will be short. We have just a couple of months to enjoy our backyard and gardens. Things will start changing in mid of August. September will be done to enjoy the outdoors. I think it is the beauty of Canada that we have all four seasons. We ...

Rabbit in my garden

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  Some days just look great. No rain, no snow. The sun is in full bloom. What else do we need to make our day? Everything looks perfect. Beautiful flowers on the Magnolia tree are about to bloom. It is already loaded with buds around. It's just a matter of time things will change too soon. I think it is time. The trees already started their journey back to life. I also see life in the flower bed at the back of my garden. A couple of birds are enjoying their morning walk on the lush green grass in my backyard. My friend the Black Squirrel is busy with his exercises on the wooden fence of my garden. A small brown rabbit is sitting quietly at the left corner by the side of the flower bed. Such a peaceful atmosphere, calm, quiet, still full of life. We can have a feel that everything is at its right place. At this time of life things in the world and all around looked so messed up. Things don't look good in the world. Peace is rare nowadays. These are the kind of moments to cherish...

Birds getting apartments

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  Beautiful day bright morning. The sun is shining. Birds are around.  My friend the Black Squirrel is back for his exercises. I can see a small brown rabbit in my back garden. The grass is lush green. The Magnolia tree is loaded with beautiful light pinkish yellow flowers with a pinkish hue inside.  The red wooden bench is shining on the left side of my front garden. The atmosphere is loaded with the fragrances from all around. The scent of the freshly cut grass. The aroma of the flowers. All are mingled to top up the breeze. It is a beautiful scenic atmosphere to cherish your  moments. Nature is amazing. It keeps on surprising us throughout the year long. Every season is unique with its own beauty. It keeps on changing like the scenes from a movie. The scenes keep on changing and displaying different videos with an automatic slide projector. There is so much to watch to observe. We have to go for a walk to absorb the real feel of everything around us. To enjoy our ...

Enjoying at Coffee House

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  Hazy morning. The sun is not awake, hiding under his grey blanket.  I think he is still drowsing, maybe he was partying with friends till late at night. It is a cloudy day and the rain is on the way. No one home. I am sitting on an empty nest. Everyone left for work. My youngest grandson is done with his uni exams. He is with his friends on a four day trip to Montreal and Quebec. Friends are like a treasure. They are like blessings when you find them at the same wavelength. Traveling with them is a big step. Not easy with the right company.. I think he is lucky to find colleagues of his choice. It is a tough time. I believe that people are a bit lonely. It is the time of Facebook and social media. No one has time to share thoughts with anyone. Especially for youngsters it is a difficult era. They have to face too much pressure at school time. Pressure from the family to compete. The family structure is also not the same as before. The marriages are now not forever. Things ch...

Flowrs and Coffee

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  Today is my Birthday. Another year, another day, another morning to start my day.  We have to feel blessed. Take our mornings as a gift from God Almighty. He trusted us to give us one more chance to make our day. Mornings are like the face of our days. We have to value and welcome our mornings. It decides in which direction our days will go. How we take our mornings will be the turning point in managing our days. It doesn't matter how our nights go. We have to welcome mornings with a smiley face. Sometimes our days are not good. We are going through with our day to day problems. Our mind gets cluttered with issues. The issues related to our workplace. The issues to tackle our family and household. We start losing our good sleep. Our nights are not the same. Our body is not ready to listen to our day plans. Especially at the later stages of life. Things start coming up. Our nights come with a different scenario. It's like Christmas. We don't know beforehand what we will be...

Birds back from the Border

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    Beautiful morning bright and sunny. Birds are all around. I think they all are back from the South of the Border.  Their chats are like musicals to add up the beauty of the atmosphere. It is like a symphony to cherish your moments. Sometimes it is more than enough to have a seat. Just to have a walk to enjoy the moments in solitude. We don't need any company. Not to distract ourselves. I just got the news that my friend is suffering from dementia. We shared so many moments of our lives together. I don't drive and neither was she. We used to chalk out our plans once a while. To enjoy our time in the Scarborough Town Center. We were not living in the same area. She used to live in the Military Trail. I live in Pickering. We used to take buses from our places to be there at our meeting point. I still have the beautiful memories of spending time with her together.  Having lunch  / tea / coffee and going back after, taking the buses to our places. I used to take ...

I love my red umbrella

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  After a couple of days break it started raining late at night. It will be raining all day.  Not a heavy rain, just a drizzle. With my glasses on I have to take an umbrella. It is better to avoid my glasses being foggy. I believe that rain or shine we have to go for making our day. No matter what. Sometimes the weather is not in our favor. Other times our health is not in good shape. Sometimes we are not in a mood to get out. I believe that mood is the key to managing our lifestyle. Our mood controls our attitude. It changes the perspective to look at life. We have to try to elevate our mood in whatever conditions are around. Sometimes we don't have the right type of people. I mean the people around are not at the same wavelength. We don't enjoy being with their company. We don't have the conditions of our choice all the time. We have to manage with whatever is available. Have patience to get along with the surroundings. We will always be able to carry on with the things a...

It is a rainy day

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   We were just out of snow and now it's raining. We know that it is Canada. We need a break.  It is Saturday. Things are a bit quiet. People are dozing off or starting their day late enjoying taking their time at home. It is 9.30 in the morning, everyone is sleeping. Maybe they were awake till late night to enjoy the weekend. My son is awake and busy watching his program. TV is on, his laptop is also on. He is busy with that too. I think he is done with his breakfast now enjoying his day time. I am also done with my breakfast with my oatmeal porridge. I don't drink my morning tea / coffee. On the days I am working I use to have tea / coffee with my friends at the library with my senior club friends. The days I am off from work I mean not going to play Darts at the library, I walk to the coffee house to have coffee there to enjoy my time on my own. We have to chalk out our day plans on our own. No one will be coming to help us out to make our day. It happens only in stori...

Enjoying at Second Cup

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  It's a beautiful morning.The weather is great. It is 12 C, not below zero anymore.  It is time to walk around and enjoy the scenic atmosphere. The trees are no longer skeletons. I can see a tinge of green running through their bodies. It is spring. The time of revival of life. Time to hit the roads, trails and waters. The season of winter is over. Enough of staying indoors. It is time to get out. My back garden is back to life. The grass is lush green. My friend the Black Squirrel is back to do his exercises on the wooden fence of my garden. I see a couple of birds walking under the Magnolia tree in my front garden. The red wooden bench is shining under the sun. The sun is in full bloom showering his light all around to make our days brighter. It is 11.15, I checked my table calendar. I have to wash my hair. I don't wash my hair every day. We keep on losing our hair at the later stages of life. We have to be careful. My walking closet is all in a mess. When you pack for a tr...

Home Sweet Home

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  It's Thursday the 21st of April. I am back in Toronto after winding up my two weeks trip to England.  Home is home no doubt about that. I am all set. Back to my job at the library to play Darts. The weather is great, still a bit on the cold side. It is just a single digit below zero.  Like summer for us in Canada. The grass is lush green in my back garden. I see some life signals too in the flower bed at the back of my garden. The same in my front garden. The Magnolia tree is about to start budding.  It will soon be all loaded with light yellow beautiful flowers with a pinkish hue inside. I believe it is always the first one to announce that spring is here. Get ready to celebrate. It is early morning, and I am done with my breakfast. Everyone left to work in person. My grandson, the middle one, is busy working from home in her room. I am off today, so I don't have to go to the library. I take the library as my work place. I am sitting sort of in an empty nest. Now ...

Road to Windsor Castle

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  It is the 17th of April,10 in the morning. I am at Camberley. I came last night from Kent.  Three of my daughters are scattered in various parts of England. I am shunting between Grimsby, Kent and Camberley. I am now at Camberley on the last leg of my trip to England. Camberley is my youngest daughter's place. It is a beautiful small town in Surrey, England. She moved here from Reading a couple of months ago. My flight to Toronto is tomorrow at noon. I have to leave early in the morning from her place to Heathrow Airport. That will be the end of my two week trip to England from 3rd to 18th April. Today is the last day of my trip. My daughter has chalked out a full day of outdoor plans. My eldest daughter from Edmonton is also here. We three are on the way to Windsor Castle. We enjoyed walking around the Castle. Swans and boats were floating on the sparkling water surface. The weather was great. No rain, we still had to wear our winter coats. Pigeons were around adding up the...

Enjoying coffee at Costa

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  Life looks beautiful, I think when your loved ones are around. You start feeling lucky. No complaints. Things all look perfect. I am at Grimsby train station. Train to Doncaster just arrived. People getting down some are trying to get in the train. Doncaster is one hour away from Grimsby. People from there can get direct train to London. I am enjoying the buzzing atmosphere at the station. Another train is about to come for Cleethorpes. Cleethorpes is a tourist spot seaside area. It is just 20 minutes drive from my daughter's place in Grimsby. I am now at Freshney shopping mall. It is 10 minutes walk from the station. I will go to Costa to enjoy my coffee over there and to walk around. My grandson dropped me at the station. left for Gym. He will be picking me up after around two hours. I will keep track of the time and the pick up point too. I am at Costa now, enjoining my coffee and the festive atmosphere. I will take a quick round of the mall. I love to go to the charity shops....

With Love from Grimsby

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    Time flies fast, that changes everything. The weather, the nature and the scenic view. We have to keep track of the things around to enjoy our moments. I think it is a small world nowadays. I was in Toronto on Tuesday night and just after a couple of hours I landed at London Heathrow airport.  The weather here is a bit cold. I have to wear my winter coat. not the heavy one. I will be in England for two weeks. I am here to attend my granddaughter's wedding. My entire family is here. All of my four daughters and my son are here with families. Amazing. Such a life time moment to cherish and to lock up in my memory box to have a feel of and to enjoy later on. Lucky me to move around at my age. I am  so grateful to Almighty to keep looking after me and keeping me mobile.  I don't deserve all that. It is all of His Blessings. He is so kind to all of His Creatures big and small. The wedding event and family celebrations lasted for three days. We were all staying at...

All packed ready to go

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  Just two days left for my trip to England. The weather over there is a bit cold. Frost and chilly.  My daughters called me to get a winter coat, gloves and woolen stole everything for there. Travel nowadays is a bit tricky. Especially for the people of our age. England is seven plus hours from Toronto. On the way back it will be eight hours. Half an hour extra. Going on trips everything will not be the same. The weather, the room we are used to and our bed. We people already have to face so many sleepless nights in our own room, in our own bed. I don't know what will be there with everything changed. I think nothing comes with a total plus. We have to accept some negatives to make our time. I am going to attend my granddaughter's wedding. All of my daughters, my son and my daughter, the eldest one will also be there from Edmonton. Everyone will be there with their families. I will see my entire family and my one year old great granddaughter too.  Amazing moments of my ...

Enjoying my coffee

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      Happy Easter to my friends in Ireland and others too. The weather is great, 2C not below zero. No snow, no rain. Amazing. I am enjoying my walk after so long. We have to wear our winter coats and gloves. Not have to bundle up. I see a tinge of green running through the bodies of the skeleton trees around. The grass in my garden is on its way back to lush green. The red wooden bench at the right side of my front garden is out of snow. It looks nice shining under the sun, giving color to the atmosphere. The Magnolia tree at the left in my garden is about to start budding. It is always the first one to announce the arrival of the spring. It is amazing to look at the Magnolia tree loaded with beautiful light pinkish flowers all around. The Renovation work at the Twin Towers looks all done. Its apartments are now I think ready to rent out. I see so many birds inside the two trees which are located in my next door neighbor's front garden. I call these two trees the “Twin ...

April Showers May flowers

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  Beautiful morning.The weather is great. Our days for outdoor walks are back. We have been waiting for this for so long. I think we have to believe, “ This too shall pass “ keeping that in mind. Things start looking just normal. Nothing bothers after you change your attitude. Our attitude depends on how we take things. How we take things depends on our mental well-being. Our mental well-being is related to our health. The mind and body are like two in one. One is not in good shape. The other one goes down too. We have to keep our days fully occupied making plans. Our plans have to be mixed and matched. We have to fill up our day columns with physical activities and also with something to entertain ourselves. It helps to boost our mind. Keeps us away from thinking negatives. Negatives are like poison. It affects our mind as well as our health. At the earlier stages of life we don't have to worry much about our day plans. We are busy with work and our family matters. At the later st...

Handling my nights

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  It is 2 C below zero, not so cold for us in Canada. We take it like our summer day. The sun is above in full bloom. I still have to wear my winter coat, gloves and also my woolen stole for getting out to my walk outdoors. I think it is windy, gusts around 40 km. That makes all the difference, making the weather  bit colder. Anyway there's no snow, no rain. I am happy. I take it. Nowadays my nights are giving me a tough time. I think it is our age. We have to come across so many surprises at the later stages of our life. I am not too sure. I think life is not a bed of roses. It is like a combo with mixed moments. We have to face some bitter moments. Some difficult times we have to come across while passing through the journey of life. My fingers are crossed about the Phenomena that things start coming up at the later stages of life. I think things keep on coming throughout our life. We keep on handling all that.  At the later stages our bodies are not strong enough to ta...

Don't bottle it up

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    It's 12.15, in the morning. Drizzling since early morning. No chance to go for an outside walk. The walkways will be messy and muddy.  I didn't have a good sleep last night. I started my day late. Every day is different, not the same. We humans too take things differently. We are not robots. We react to whatever is going on around us. The weather, the people. The effect of the weather is temporary. Behaviors of the people around us at our work and household matters a lot. The way they meet, they talk to us about matters a lot. Some talk deliberately to satisfy their ego. That hurts our feelings. Some do without knowing how we take it. We get affected anyway. Everything imparts on our personality. How we take it determines the way we react. Sometimes it takes time to exhibit our reaction. Sometimes we react abruptly right away. It depends on the personalities how much time we take to swallow the reaction. We have to filter out what we feel. Not in a rude way. Don't do ...