Happy Thanksgiving

 

 October 12th 2024

It is Saturday, and Monday will be Thanksgiving holiday. It will be a long weekend. Some people are planning to have big parties. Some are old, can't handle all that. They like to see kids and grandchildren at that special occasion, so plan a one dish party. 

For some, even one dish party is too much to handle. Cleaning up the mess after the party is tough to manage at our age.

In that situation we parents like to be invited to our kids' places. That all depends on how things are at our kids home. Maybe their family life is undergoing some challenges. They don't like to share with us to flare up the existing situation.

Don't have to push kids to invite us. Don't have to get sentimental. Our kids are our blood. They do care about us. We don't know what he is dealing with at home. Sometimes their children are not OK to see their old grandparents at parties.

They might be thinking that the presence of older people will take the flavor out of the party. It will be like messing up the whole event for them. The party glamor will be done for them. It won't be the same as planning to enjoy in their own style.

Family life is very complex. On the wedding day it is like a Christmas gift wrapped under a beautiful package. It will be a total surprise after we go on unfolding the package wrapping. We didn't know before what we were going to get in the package.

Married life gets more challenging after we plan to start a family. Kids upbringing is a full time job. It is very demanding. We didn't know that before starting this project. It's too late now. Done is done. Mother and father both are working. Kids have to go to nurseries to spend time. Parents have time to be with kids only on weekends.

They shower gifts and food to balance out. This is affecting their behavior. They become too demanding, especially after they become teens. It's not easy to expect anything from them.
To be ac-com-mo-dative won't be their nature. Sharing is not easy for them.They are too self centered. They might even take their own grandparents like outsiders.

We parents don't know what is going on with our kids' family lives. Don't have to put unnecessary pressure on them to invite us to their house. They are our kids. Trust them that they still love us. They invite us or not depends on their situation.

We have to enjoy our own time by doing our own things. We can go to eat out to make Thanksgiving day. Try to learn to enjoy your own company. Don’t have to look to kids or to anyone else to make our day. Why to depend on others. Try that. You will enjoy your company, your time alone. Trust me.