Time is a Great Teacher and Healer Too

 

I am am in Edmonton, sitting with my eldest daughter and my son, enjoying our breakfast together. Great moments to cherish. She is working online. It is 8.50, she has to go to her office room at 9 am sharp. She converted one of her room into office. It looks like an office, a big table with computers and special office like chairs. To create an atmosphere, supports, to focus on work, I think, it is important, to have a office feel. 

Her house is a three bed room with an open concept. Bright house with considerable big back garden, upper deck is, with couple of steps to enter the garden. Very comfortable, cane and steel combination backyard furniture with grey cushions and glass top table in the center is arranged at the deck, to enjoy outside. It is a well decorated house with ordinary pieces of art, sculptures and indoor plants. It is something great that she is managing all this and also her two sons, with her single income. Not easy for single parents to brought up family and manage their household.

One of her son already did his medicinal degree, working in hospital, in States. The younger one is also very bright, he is in 3rd year of Uni. Whenever marriages not to be worked out, doesn't mean, the other person is a bad guy. Compatibility is the key in relationship, otherwise both the parties keep struggling to bridge the gap and nothing works out. 

End of marriage is like tumbling down of the entire system of the household. It is  not the matter of only the two people's life but for each and everyone in the family, is affected out of this disaster. Specially the kids suffer a lot, have to go through so much emotional ups and downs. They are the one sandwiched in between. Things happen. Marriage life is like an uncharted journey to travel. It needs lot of patience and understanding beside love. 

In early stage of this turmoil, immediate family of both the parties, not in a mood, to extend any type of their support. It is not their fault. No one is ready to accept all this. Everyone going through somewhat the same emotional phase. Everybody dealing in his own way. They rather become a problem for both the parties, to tackle along with their own broken relationship. Being single parent, the early days of this life, are real tough, like a roller coaster. 

My daughter works online, her son is out for the entire day, busy with his studies, attending classes. He is working part time too, on weekends. She learned how to live by herself in a big house. She is busy with gardening, growing plants from seeds, enjoying, watching TV shows, going for a walk in between. Her house is spotless. I think, she learned a lot, how to lead a life single handedly. Time is a great teacher and healer too. You learn to manage everything after a while. Nothing looks like, end of the world. We, Humans are amazing Creatures, we survive in all circumstances.